“A man plays seven parts in his life!” William Shakespeare wrote this in 1599. In the poetry, “All The World’s A Stage”, he described seven stages of a man’s life, but never mentioned anything about being a father, the reason being that a man is a father from the moment he gets married. And by marriage, it doesn’t mean romantic legalization taking the church/government into consideration, by marriage it means engulfing oneself in an activity with a sense of commitment where the mind and heart always think alike.
A man is a father who takes care of things on his own, who takes responsibilities of people around him and close to him. And by man, it just doesn’t mean male humans, by man, it means the entire human race. We all have some sort of responsibilities on our shoulders; some of us realize it soon and the rest realize it later, but yes, we are a father at every stage of life.
When one is in school, he/she realizes the importance of studies and friends in life. And more importantly, the significance of studies in friends’ life. So, at that moment, taking up the responsibility of a teacher and mentor, makes you father, who won’t let his/her friends fail, you will push them and make them work harder, so, with your progression, your friends too can progress.
Well, this was just an example to make some of us understand that there is nothing to be scared of with the idea of being a father, we have always been a father to some else or another, we never chose to realize it, or maybe it is such that we realized but were too scared to admit it. There are times in life when you may not have your Dad with you, and you may feel all alone, even then, you need to be mature and composed, realize your self-worth and make the most of every passing minute, even if it’s a moment of depression, experience it, learn from it and imply the learnings in life.
Well, now that the concept is clear, let’s get to the topic, “A Father is Born When He Gets Married.”
In India, a boy who turns of the legal age to get married i.e. 21, he needs to prepare to be a father. From the moment he turns 21, there is a constant pressure on him to be worthy of the right girl. Seems inappropriate, but that is the truth. Ever since, a boy turns to be a man, at least by age, there is a constant pressure from family to prepare about getting settled in life. This pressure might not be caused directly, however, it’s built up over time in the subconscious.
We all understand the responsibilities that tag along with marriage. A complete life changing instance when the thought of better half’s happiness is more important than the self-willingness. The responsibility of taking care of yourself and your spouse is the utmost important thing.
A man plans out his entire life right from the moment he gets the idea of getting married. A timeline is prepared considering all the aspects of liveliness like insurance, investments, household expenses, kids, health and welfare of the family and the list keeps on going. These were the expenses and investments that require a source of income, nonetheless, money can be earned, however, the bigger role is to earn respect from society.
A father is born because he must look after his wife and home without loosening the efficiency at work. A balance is required in everyone’s life between personal and professional life, a balance which defines character and status in the society to praise self-worth in the form of happiness and peace of mind.
Our society always says that when a girl gets married, she has to sacrifice everything that belonged to her. Well, that is true, however, a boy sacrifices as much as the girl, but it always goes unnoticed, because he doesn’t leave his house, he doesn’t change his name and he can live the way he wishes to. Although all the things are true, the sacrifice that he makes are more, he learns to sacrifice himself in order to provide comfort and luxury to the girl. A man loses himself to help her spouse find herself.
Just a short note: this article is not supposed to be anti-feminist, just a thought expressing that when a couple gets married, both work together and make many sacrifices to keep each other happy.